Adult Bullying & Cancel Culture
Although my personal experiences with abuse initially felt unique, I soon realized that countless individuals have been through similar ordeals. It’s unfortunately common for individuals to be blamed and treated like the abuser. Despite never having imagined working in the field of domestic violence, trauma, and abuse, fate brought me here. It’s a privilege to now be able to help others who have gone through similar experiences.
Purpose of this site
After suffering in silence for over a decade, I have finally found the courage to speak out about the abuse I had endured. Unfortunately, when I first shared my experiences, members of the Spokane community responded with more ostracization, hate, slander, threats and abuse. I went silent again for my own safety. However, when Johnny Depp began to speak out in 2022, I felt a renewed sense of confidence and started sharing my story once again. I am committed to sharing the full extent of my experiences, including all public and private smear campaigns.
Through sharing my story, I hope to raise awareness about the destructive impact of cancel culture on individuals and communities. To provide context and understanding, I am compiling a timeline that outlines the events that have led to this point, in order to help others better comprehend the complexities of a hate campaign similar to my own. My goal is to help other survivors feel less alone.
I firmly believe that Cancel Culture is a Hate Crime.
The Synopsis
Friends have been encouraging me to write and share my experiences, but I never could have predicted the magnitude of what has happened since then. In addition to this website, I am also working on a book that will delve deeper into these experiences and the impact they have had on my life. Below is a brief summary of the book's content that is currently in progress.
I have been falsely accused of numerous heinous crimes, including rape, child molestation, domestic violence along with being homosexual who cheats on his girlfriend. These allegations were completely fabricated and varied depending on who was being told. I was even called "The [Jeffery] Epstein of Spokane". Later, I was added to a "Dangerous Men of Spokane" list that was circulated privately among women-led Facebook groups. Although the list was eventually deleted due to fear of defamation lawsuits, some women still continued to share it. A few weeks later, an article was published in The Inlander, a newspaper in Spokane, WA, that praised the women who had created the list.
In reality, the truth is far from these outrageous claims. I have experienced a range of situations that were bizarre, sad, and truly terrifying, including multiple attempts on my life at the hands of former partners. These false accusations were made by individuals who were once close to me, and were intended to silence me while covering up their own crimes. For more than five years, I lived in fear of being arrested for crimes I did not commit until a local judge explained the statute of limitations and that I could not be charged.
Despite the pain and trauma caused by these false allegations, I have grown stronger through this experience. Healing from this betrayal has been the biggest test of my life, but I am still here. I recently came across a quote that resonates with me: "If you tell the truth, it becomes a part of your past. But if you tell a lie, it becomes a part of your future." Although I have been the target of many lies, I choose to tell the truth and move forward with my future.
Nearly 30% of rape is perpetrated by females on their male partner.
Less than 5% of reported sexual assault cases are committed by females. It's crucial to initiate discussions about this issue. Creating safe spaces for individuals to open up after experiencing sexual trauma is essential.
80% of Suicide in the US are males.
Women are three times more likely to attempt suicide, yet men constitute 80% of suicide statistics. Men often feel hopeless when encountering traumatic situations, and current resources aren't adequately tailored to support them. It's crucial to enhance support systems to instill hope in individuals facing such challenges.
There are very few resources for men who have experienced sexual assault or DV.
WE NEED TO CHANGE THIS!
Ambitious Goals
Legistlative Changes for WA & Federal
Washington currently lacks laws to protect against the abuses I have experienced. I hope to collaborate on a “Crying Wolf Law” to prevent false accusations of sexual and physical assaults. These accusations should be held to the same legal standards as the crimes they are accusing others of.
Trauma Healing Workshops
I aim to co-create workshops to aid individuals who have experienced domestic violence, sexual trauma, or public bullying in their healing journey.
Extend Statute of Limitations
Dealing with the legal process while healing from trauma can take over 2 years. In my case, it took 5 years before realizing that the attacks wouldn’t stop until I took action. It’s challenging to hold the individual accountable for the smear campaigns, so I hope to change laws to prevent ongoing traumas for others.
Publishing Bullies, Boundaries and Betrayal
Writing these books has been a daunting task due to the rawness of my experiences. Reviewing my notes and journals from my time in abusive relationships can emotionally impact me for weeks. However, I believe sharing my story can help others feel less isolated, making this endeavor worthwhile.
“Nobody is more focused on trashing your name… Than someone who is worried that you tell people the truth”
-Unknown
Full Time Philanthropist since 2016
For the past few years, I have dedicated myself to assisting numerous small to medium-sized non-profit organizations to expand their reach and impact. My life mission is to help the world heal, and one of my top priorities is healing from generational trauma. I channel my philanthropic efforts towards supporting organizations that work in drug/alcohol recovery, homelessness, animal welfare, health, and mental health. Unfortunately, the false accusations and smear campaigns have significantly hindered my efforts. Many benefactors have disconnected their support from the non-profits I run, and I have lost hundreds of community supporters as a result.
Despite enduring countless horrific events at the hands of others, I do not identify as a victim. Instead, I see myself as a survivor.
-Joshua A.
Our Blog
I plan to share articles in the future on topics such as domestic violence, bullying, cancel culture, and trauma survival.
Resources
My Plea to the World
I want to emphasize that my intention is not to cause harm or exclusion to anyone, regardless of who you may believe has caused me pain. The purpose of this site is to reclaim my life, not to inflict harm on others. The individuals who have hurt me carry their own incredibly tragic stories, and I feel nothing but empathy for them and their experiences. I firmly believe that hate cannot be met with hate; love is the only solution. Having experienced the devastating effects of public shaming firsthand, I would never wish such pain upon anyone else. I genuinely hold no hatred towards those who have harmed me, and my only wish is for their well-being. As Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi once wisely said, “An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.”